No Big Deal
From Athlete to Advocate: A Memoir of Childhood Betrayal and a Journey to Justice.
For fifteen years, these words kept Torey Ivanic from telling her parents, friends, and boyfriends about her interactions with the gymnastics coach who utterly confused her young mind, body, and soul- who had, she eventually came to understand, sexually violated her.
In this memoir, Torey transparently and brilliantly shows how the abuse started, the collateral damage it created in her young life, her realization that it was a big deal, and her journey of healing and justice. After helping to put her perpetrator in prison for 43 years, she created a new life full of real love and joy and became an advocate for sexual abuse prevention.
Most importantly, Torey has lit the path for other victims and their loved ones to:
- Understand Exactly How Grooming Happens
- Realize It Was and Is a Big Deal, and Not Their Fault
- Identify and Address Collateral Physical and Emotional Fallout
- Find Open Spaces for Healing
- Become an Advocate for Justice and Prevention
Whether you have been telling yourself that it was no big deal, or you know it was a big deal and need to know it's possible to move forward- and especially if you have young children and don't know how to protect them- this is the book for you.
It IS a big deal.
And there IS something we can do about it.
Read An Excerpt from No Big Deal
As I sat at my desk and finished typing the note on my last patient, I could feel the tears welling up again. My left ring finger was empty, and so was my heart. I couldn’t believe my tear ducts had anything left but I couldn’t hold it back. Here they came again.
What is wrong with me? Why can’t I get this right? And if it DOES have anything to do with Greg, I wonder if Samantha is dealing with the same relationshit? Maybe she’s over it?
I opened my email and started a new message...
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About the Author
Holistic health practitioner and change-agent Torey Ivanic is on a mission to stop sexual abuse.